Updated: Jan 30
I have had the privilege of studying in 8 schools across India, each at places very distinct from the others. And I am immensely grateful for these experiences that have taught me to see change as the only constant in life.
With the memories of old friends, making new ones has been a never ending task for me. But, an important skill I have learnt over these years is ‘choosing the right surroundings’, and by this I mean the people we surround ourselves with. So, let’s dive into talking about the importance of picking the right people.
If you want to make a positive change in your life, remember, the people around you have a critical influence on your energy, growth and the probability of your success. If you surround yourself with people who are forward-moving, positive, loyal, successful, hardworking, focused and supportive, it will challenge you to be more, do more and share more. If you can befriend people who will never let you settle for less than what you can be, you have gifted the greatest strength to yourself.
It is aptly said that “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with, so be wise while choosing your top five”. If you feel emotionally drained by the naysayers in your life, you may want to detox your life and get rid of the connections that aren’t serving you in a positive way. Because where you sit today determines where you’ll stand tomorrow.
So, we narrow down to – How to choose these people?
There are two vital aspects to be considered when you are assessing someone for a place in your life.
Number One: Match it up
Seek for people whose beliefs and values resonate with your own. It is even better if you are striving forward on a common path because it is most likely that they will understand your goals and know the worth of the efforts you are putting in.
Number Two: Seek Higher
Associate with people who are more experienced and learned than you because they are the ones who provide you with that dose of motivation. Being the "smartest" person in the room is gratifying to the ego, but it's not beneficial to the growth. "If you're the smartest one in the room, you're in the wrong room."
Now, the people who can help you become a positive and purposeful being may already be around you. If we have not recognized them yet, it is solely because we don’t generally pay attention while choosing our tribe.
Winding up, I know this task is easier said than done but once we master this art of connecting to the right people, we’ll experience an exponential growth in the way we see, think and do things. I hope you take some time and re-evaluate the circle you are a part of.